Anorgasmia

Definition of Anorgasmia

It defines itself anorgasmia the inability to reach the peak of pleasure, despite intense and prolonged sexual stimulation; like vaginismus and dyspareunia, also "anorgasmia s" fits into the category of disorders that hinder love.
We speak of anorgasmia masturbatory in the case of impossibility of reaching orgasm following a masturbation, and of coital anorgasmia when the inability to satisfy pleasure depends on the traditional sexual act.

For some women, orgasm is only possible through the masturbatory act and the peak of sexual satisfaction is not reached during coitus: in this case, it is not a proper "anorgasmia" and it certainly cannot be defined as a woman. anorgasmic; each person, whether man or woman, reacts in a different and subjective way to sexual stimulation.

Incidence

Anorgasmia can afflict men and women, although it is a phenomenon much more discussed by the female sex; statistics show that anorgasmia is one of the most frequent sexual disorders in women. It seems that about 12% of women with a regular sex life have never experienced orgasm and 34% do not feel the shock of pleasure during penetration. The most disconcerting data undoubtedly refers to 47% of women who, according to estimates, fake orgasm.
Still, some women, when they perceive the discharge of pleasure that increases more and more, become blocked, not exceeding the limit of complete sexual satisfaction; the anorgasmia can greatly afflict the subject and, indiscriminately, the man and the woman are overwhelmed. from a notable state of anxiety.

Classification

Anorgasmia is a disorder that can be divided into several levels:

• Primary anorgasmia (also called absolute or primitive): the subject has never reached orgasm since the beginning of sexual life. Probably, the triggering cause that provokes the primitive form of anorgasmia is due to sexual inhibitions and unfounded fears, which prevent the woman (or the "man) from" loosening "the inhibitions and giving herself completely to love.
• Secondary anorgasmia: the affected subject progressively loses the ability to reach orgasm, despite a period of "normality" referred to the responsiveness to orgasm. Generally, women and men affected by secondary anorgasmia had previously experienced sexual weaknesses.
• Random anorgasmia (or situational): the subject becomes anorgasmic based on the situation, partner and environment. Generally, especially in women, the condition is absolutely reversible and more often than not, the simultaneous clitoral (superficial) and vaginal (more deep) allows the achievement of orgasm.
• Generalized anorgasmia: anorgasmia does not depend on the situation created, but always occurs.
• Pure coital anorgasmia: the achievement of pleasure is impossible through coitus, but the orgasm can be perceived following a manual or oral stimulation.
• Anorgasmia acquired by urge incontinence: the subject is unable to feel the shock of extreme enjoyment due to a fear (sometimes unfounded) of losing control during orgasm and of urinating.

However, in most cases, any type of anorgasmia reflects a disturbed relationship with sex and pleasure in general.

Possible causes

The origin of anorgasmia is not clear and still remains an object of study for many authors, since, as analyzed above, every woman and every man react in a different and personal way to stimuli and impulses of a sexual nature. In any case, some triggering factors have been identified that significantly affect the manifestation of anorgasmia.
Anorgasmia could be caused by drugs, or doping substances, physical trauma to the genital level (infibulation, Lichen sclerosus - chronic inflammation of the skin and mucous membranes which can also affect the genitals, clitoria), dyspareunia, vaginismus, stress, anxiety. In general, the causes of psychological origin are the most frequent: excessive self-control, a "performance anxiety and an immeasurable attention for the sole pleasure of the partner.
Psychological-sexual traumas and rape are also important causal factors that affect "anorgasmia: in the latter case, generally, the affected subject has a complicated and enigmatic experience, so psychological therapy is absolutely recommended to suppress fears that have their roots in the past.
As far as drugs are concerned, attention must be paid to psychotropic and antidepressant substances: the use of drugs against depression significantly affects sexual life. In fact, from the very first treatments, the subject presents considerable difficulties in achieving pleasure (anorgasmia, impotence, decreased desire, premature ejaculation without orgasm): sexual dysfunctions caused by antidepressant drugs can last for a relatively long period, even after the interruption of drug treatment.
Again, ignorance, cultural and religious restrictions, self-denial, lack of sexual education, lack of consistent family support, inexperience, associated with male partner disorders (impotence, difficulty in reaching and maintenance of erection) can heavily affect anorgasmia.

Reflections

In couple relationships, the desire to satisfy the partner is indispensable, to satisfy his ambitions and desires, but one must never forget to love. themselves. The sexual act should not satisfy only one of the two partners: when the search for orgasm is limited to the satisfaction of the individual, there is the risk of transforming pleasure into a reductive satisfaction and the sexual act translates into a (sad) outburst personal.
It should be noted that anorgasmia is not synonymous with impotence, nor with lack of pleasure, but the condition refers only to the moment of (missed) orgasm.
Erroneously, it stretches always to make orgasm coincide with male ejaculation; but this is not the case every time, since it has been shown that a man suffering from anorgasmia still manages to have an ejaculation (albeit often delayed), without experiencing the maximum point of sexual satisfaction.
Anorgasmia is a pseudo disease that results in a real disorder that hinders love.