Stress and Psychological Wellbeing

The real danger to our planet and our species is the mediocrity Human. Humility, compassion, moderation, reliability, inclination to deepen, to the "benefit of the doubt" and to fun are common denominators of great men. There are many religions but only one true spirituality.
It is good to carry out as much rewarding activities as possible by exploiting the talents proper to each of us. Not doing it is a real shame it doesn't feel good about yourself. At the same time, it is best not to stifle one's talents with "excessive passion and / or" anxiety about results ".
We need to help ours partner to best realize himself, not to stifle his needs, expectations, dreams and talents by isolating him. At the same time we must ensure that it acts in the same way towards us.

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We always remember that we are human and therefore we have limits to overcome. Therefore we do not expect perfection from our partner, that is, do not delude ourselves that it can give us everything we need. And "why the"friendship it is an indispensable good for us. "To love does not mean to find perfection, but to forgive terrible defects". Rosamunde Pilcher.
In loving our neighbor, let us always remember to love ourselves equally. We often talk about love without taking into account its infinite different interpretations and facets. But what is true love? Certainly not the most sought after, that is the romantic, passionate one. It is based on passion, on excitement and cannot last long without impoverishing us, exhausting us (like chronic stress). Love founded on passion is actually an escape from ourselves, a state of intoxication that takes us away from our problems. But this can be useful for a short "regenerating interval", it cannot last long, it would be deleterious for us to the enormous use of necessary energy. And once the effect is exhausted, our responsibilities, which life imposes on us, are there waiting for us, perhaps increased in the meantime. Once the passion inexorably ends, does the love end (leaving us exhausted)? True love does not begin if the conditions exist for it to grow more and more. What distinguishes true love is the entity of the beneficial mutual exchange it involves. The greater the value of the latter, the more we will truly love a person (or any other living being) and we will be loved by her.
"Friendship, like love, requires almost as much art as a successful dance figure. It takes a lot of momentum and a lot of control, a lot of exchanges of words and a lot of silences. And above all, a lot of respect". R. Nurejev.
Sufficient importance will never be given to relaxation deep. This is the state in which we give the best of ourselves from a mental and physical point of view. "Illuminations" and body regeneration take place in this situation. Hence the importance of deep sleep and relaxing techniques (massage, self-hypnosis, activities moderate physics etc.).
On the contrary, the "excitement prolonged or negative (i.e. associated with unpleasant sensations such as insecurity, fear, discomfort), makes us less lucid and efficient. This type of arousal is similar to negative stress (distress). The short-lived and positive excitement (ie associated with feelings of security, mastery of the situation, pleasure) is instead a vital impulse that allows us to face new and / or sudden situations (similar to positive stress or eustress). Hence the "importance of small" transgressions "or follies.
It is "good to always expect there"unexpected taking from every situation a stimulus to the expansion of our awareness or of our growth. Superficiality rarely pays, it is always good to deepen.
"Everyone knows that something is impossible to achieve, until a fool who does not know it arrives and invents it". Albert Einstein.
Act it is always better than mulling over but action must always lead to one's own well-being and that of others in moderation. Very often the obstacles turn out to be lower than previously thought, once faced.
"To erase fear, turn around and look it in the face: because what you face openly dissolves in the light of awareness". Anonymous
Like surgery, psychiatric intervention, ie the use of psychotropic drugs, must be used in emergencies or as a last resort. In all other cases it is necessary to resort to a valid, professional, specialist and integrated support.

N.B.: this list of advice in no way replaces the advice of a professional; its only intent is to serve as a starting point for information and reflection.

Edited by Dr. Giovanni Chetta