Many women experiencing pregnancy do not know how to behave during the nine months of gestation with respect to their sex life. Their partners usually feel the same, if not even greater embarrassment.
Multiple fears, doubts and taboos crowd the minds of future parents who often end up giving up - or at least sacrificing considerably - this fundamental part of their relationship in a completely unjustified way. Often without even addressing the topic together. Avoiding, out of modesty, that dialogue, that communication, which instead could lead to the solution of the problem.
Once again it must be stressed that pregnancy, in the vast majority of cases, is an absolutely physiological event. It certainly involves important changes in the woman's body and mind. But such changes are not, so they should not be interpreted and managed, as if they were pathological.
On the other hand, with some foresight, the woman will continue to work even in pregnancy. She will continue to have a social life, to carry out her physical activity and to travel. And always with some foresight the woman will continue to drink and eat.
In short, by respecting some fundamental rules (often dictated by simple common sense, other times indicated more specifically by the gynecologist and / or the "midwife), the pregnant woman can safely continue to do the things she did before pregnancy and which she will continue to do. after childbirth.
Excluding sexuality alone from this physiological combination - fearing that it could be dangerous in itself - would make no sense. Only the presence of cultural prejudices and the lack of "adequate information on the subject can lead to such a misunderstanding.
That is why it seems essential to us to clarify some key concepts. Making love during pregnancy is in itself an absolutely normal fact. In normal conditions, the fetus is always safe because it is protected by the uterus and the amniotic sac. The physical and hormonal changes experienced by the woman in this period (especially from the second trimester) can even favor to a certain extent her libido and her physical predisposition to intercourse (the genital area will be more perfused, the vagina will be more lubricated, the more sensitive breasts and perineum, etc.). The small contractions caused by orgasm do not represent a threat, just as penetration and male ejaculation are not harmful.
Some practical difficulties can certainly emerge, especially in the last few weeks, from the encumbrance of the belly or from the possible back pain of the pregnant woman. woman is likely to exert excessive and harmful pressure on her abdomen). But this is certainly not a sufficient reason to give up one's sexuality tout court. Every couple who so desires can in fact experiment and freely identify alternative forms and methods that do not involve any mechanical discomfort: for example, with a woman on all fours or on her side. Some also recommend the position with the woman on her knees or squatting over her partner. Others, on the other hand, exclude it, fearing that the penetration could be too deep in this way. Although it must be said that this position still allows the woman to actively maintain control over her sensations and avoid pain or discomfort that would otherwise suggest the interruption of the relationship itself.
However, it is not our intention here to draw up some kind of imaginative Kamasutra for pregnancy. As mentioned, every single couple, in their own intimacy, will find the most suitable solutions for themselves. The important thing, once again, is that the right message arrives. Sexuality in pregnancy, in itself, is by no means contraindicated and it is almost always possible to find simple and effective remedies for the technical obstacles that may arise from time to time.
Certainly there are specific contraindications, or in any case more delicate situations that may involve some greater risk, and which therefore must be discussed on the merits with the gynecologist and / or obstetrician who assist you. For example a history of spontaneous abortions or the presence of a placenta previa, the appearance of blood loss or the premature rupture of the amniotic sac, and still a threat of preterm birth, but in these cases we will be out of physiology.
As in any other phase of our life, then, the success of one's sexual experiences cannot be reduced to a mere technical and mechanical fact. The psychological and relational component is naturally fundamental. And it is even more so in pregnancy given the real emotional earthquake that this phase involves.
If in fact it is true, as we have highlighted so far, that many couples renounce sex for the "unjustified fear of" doing material damage ", it is equally true that often it is stereotypes, prejudices and false myths that still surround us at" to extinguish "one's legitimate desires for months.
From this point of view, the pregnant woman goes through alternate and different periods. Feelings and expectations change from week to week. The nausea and fatigue of the first trimester can, for example, temporarily lower the desire while shortly thereafter the sensitivity, the need for affection, attention and reassurance, the need for tenderness and pampering will increase. It will not always be essential to have complete relationships. Sometimes a caress, a kiss, a massage are enough. However, physical contact with the partner undoubtedly favors the psycho-physical well-being of the couple.
In the second trimester the woman experiences her moment of best shape from all points of view. This often also results in a recovery of libido and sexual desire. Paradoxically, during these nine months (not running the risk of unwanted pregnancies any more) some women are able for the first time to abandon themselves completely to pleasure and to experience the fullness of orgasm.
Sexuality in pregnancy: second part "
